As you struggle and run around to trying to find the “perfect” gift, think about what’s really important. Is it the designer bag or the hottest toy? Is it the perfect diamond or the most expensive leather jacket? In a word, no. Yes, those are really nice things, but they are just that, things. In the grand scheme of life, those things don’t amount to a hill of beans.
It’s going to be a tight Christmas for us this year, so I’ve been trying to figure out how to give our family the best gifts I can without putting us in debt. “Santa” will still have some gifts for the girls (even though they ‘know’ all about Santa) but the gifts from Mom and Dad will be things that you can’t put a price on. This is something I’ve done this in the past when the girls were little and they actually loved it. They will get “coupons” redeemable for a day with me and a day with their Dad. Or maybe it’ll be a weekend without chores. Maybe we’ll make cookies or I’ll show them how to bead a pretty bracelet. Or maybe we will spend a day writing letters and putting together packages for our adopted soldiers. It doesn’t matter what the activity, it’s the being together that’s important.
We have a tendency to spoil the girls with things, just like any other parents, but we have found that the best gift we have given our girls is time. As a family, we have done whatever we can to have dinner together. A time when we can all sit down and catch up on the day’s events. It’s more difficult, but even more important now that the girls are older and have so many other activities, but we try to have dinner together as often as possible. This one activity has shown them that we are available for them. We will always been there for them, whether it’s to see their concerts and plays or just to listen. Yes, we still have times when we don’t get along, but because we have shown them throughout their lives that family and home are important, the girls always know that we are there for them…no matter what.
So, for us this year, the best gifts we will give each other are love and time.